If you ever wanted to know why we cheat and get the truth on the motivations behind sex and our infidelity, then look no further. You questions shall be answered. Monogamy isn’t the only way to go. Sometimes, for many people, polygamy or having multiple or polyamorous relationships is useful mating strategy for reproduction. There is a constant battle to pass down our genes to the next generation and the next one after. This is the concept of the book called, Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict, and Other Bedroom Battles.
We are biologically driven to pass down our genes. Yes we are motivated by the pleasures of sex and orgasm, but, subconsciously there is an inner urge d to pass down our genes in the process. Biologist, Robin Baker, discusses this in his book, Sperm Wars. He gives interesting hypotheses on our behaviors and how men’s sperm compete for the egg and how women may even orchestrate these battles, without even realizing it. She is subconsciously trying to see who has the best genes based on the sperm warfare.
Oral sex is explained as way to determine the health of the partner receiving the act and to detect for any possibility of infidelity. You may think that you are just doing it as act of foreplay and get your partner excited and give them pleasure, but it also gives you clues if they are healthy or been faithful based on the smell or taste. Can you believe that even the shape of the penis has a purpose? It is designed to act as suction and remove other men’s sperm in the women’s cervix during thrusting when she recently had sex with another guy.
There are also different kinds of sperms for men. Each ejaculate has an estimated less than 1% of fertile sperm to enter the egg. The others are considered to be “kamikaze” or “blockers” to attack and defend against other men’s sperms. How wild is that? Women are also more likely to cheat and have sex with other men besides their partner during their fertile phase while having more routine sex with her partner in her infertile phase. The reasoning in the book may surprise you.
The books gives interesting stories and realistic narratives of men and women having sex with explanations and evidence to support them. The author also gives comparisons with other animals that show similar behavior. The book is pretty controversial because it talks about things such as rape and homosexuality, but it is really eye-opening on our behaviors for sex. I recommend reading Sperm Wars to get an entertaining and insightful look into sex and the psychology and evolutionary biology behind it.